Thursday, January 22, 2009

Murmuring...

I must admit that after this week, I'm in the murmuring mood. I wish people understood the tremendous toll having a Bishop in the house takes on a family. He misses much of our lives because he's either on the phone or gone to a meeting or visiting someone.

If people truly knew how we have literally sacrificed Mark for this period of time and how it affects our kids and the relationship between Mark and I, they would spend a little less time criticizing, a little more time solving their own problems and a few more hours on their own callings. All of those things would have given us back HOURS of time this week.

I can't wait for a new week. I'm over this one and it's only Thursday night. I shall go repent immediately, but sometimes, I need to wallow for just a minute in my murmurings.

Next time you pick up the phone to dial the Bishop's house, pause and reflect on whether or not he TRULY needs to be involved in whatever you're calling him for. Is there a home teacher, visiting teacher, quorum leader or friend who can help you, instead? I know every Bishop's family in the church would appreciate that little reflection before you dial.

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Just One More

How much better would your life be if you did just one more of something really good? A few weeks ago, our Relief Society President challenged us to go to the Temple just ONE MORE TIME in 2009. Today, our Relief Society teacher challenged us to read just one more scripture each day.

What if everyone in the church took on the "one more" challenge and in addition to one more time to the temple each year or month and one more scripture a day, the did many things just a little more? Amazing things would happen.

  • Just one more call or visit to those you are assigned for visiting and home teaching
  • Just one more prayer to your Heavenly Father each day
  • Just one more moment of gratitude
  • Just one more act of charity or kindness
  • Just one more hour working on your lesson
  • Just one more dollar on your Fast Offerings or charitable donations
  • Just one more name found on your genealogy (and taken to the temple)
  • Just one more, "I love you".
  • Just one more, "I appreciate you"
Sometimes I think we are overwhelmed by all that we have to do in this life. What if we took the "one more" challenge and looked around at the things we do every day and tried to do them just a little better? For some of us, it will double our efforts and for some of us, it will just be a slight increase in all the work we are already doing. But, the collective effort would change the world.

Sunday, January 11, 2009

Are YOU Prepared?

This was a talk given by Victor L. Brown during the recession of 1980. I had a true "light bulb" moment after reading it. I love when he says that this is a "personal preparedness, not church preparedness" issue. The church welfare system should not be the first place we head when we need help. It should be first, ourselves (because WE should be prepared), then, our extended family and then the church. Mark asked me the other night how long we could eat off our food storage. I told him, "Probably 3 months." I mean, I have 30 boxes of Tuna and Chicken Helper and about that many cans of tuna. But, I'll admit, the thought crossed my mind that, "We could always get food orders." Shame on me. It's MY responsibility to prepare. I assume that in this current economic turmoil that the church is once again wondering why members aren't prepared to take care of themselves. How many times do we need to be told?


"You will recall that ancient Israel was kept wandering in the wilderness for forty years before the people were prepared to cross over Jordan and enter the promised land. For over forty years we as a people have been taught the importance of personal and family preparedness. We have been taught that the first responsibility for our welfare rests upon our own shoulders and then upon our families. Only when these resources fail do we have call upon the Church. Yet, in recent months, it has been increasingly evident that there are many who are not prepared.


Within the last twelve months, the distribution of fast offerings and commodities by the bishops has been alarming. At the present rate of demand, the Church resources will be almost expended in a short time. As a matter of fact, some commodities have already been depleted, and this when the evidence is that the recession will be of a short duration. It would appear that in altogether too many cases the teachings about preparedness have been either misunderstood or knowingly rejected. Many of our members appear to feel that when difficulty comes, the Church will come to their aid, even when they could have prepared themselves had their priorities been appropriate.

Some time ago while visiting two stakes, I saw the evidence of the point I am trying to make. Both stakes were in predominantly Latter-day Saint communities. Both were affected seriously by the same severe but temporary disruption of employment. Generally, when I arrive in a new community for stake conference, I drive around the neighborhood or countryside to get a feel for the kind of people who live there. For example: Are their yards well taken care of? Are their homes well cared for? Are there old dilapidated barns and outbuildings, or are the properties neatly maintained and fenced? In other words, how much pride do the people have in themselves and their community?

In the first stake I refer to, I saw well-cared-for homes and yards. It seemed that this was a prosperous, so-called middle-class area. Some would have thought it an affluent area from the number of recreation vehicles in the driveways—boats, campers, and motor homes. As I met with the stake presidency, I commented on the apparent prosperity of the people. However, when reviewing the welfare needs of the people, I was shocked to see the demands made on the fast-offering funds and the bishops’ storehouse.

The stake president informed me that within a week or two of the closing down of the major employer, many families came to their bishops for assistance. They had very limited reserves from which to take care of themselves. He also mentioned there were some faithful members in his stake who from their reserves had taken care of their own needs as well as assisting some of their neighbors.

In the second stake, which was some distance from the first but which was impacted heavily by the same employment problem, I saw few recreation vehicles. As a matter of fact, I saw little evidence of affluence, although the properties were neat and tidy. Here I was surprised to see practically no fast offerings or bishop’s orders being used.

I asked the stake president if his bishops understood and were discharging their responsibilities for the poor and those in need. He indicated that, while some families had needed to seek assistance from their bishops, most of the members recognized their responsibility for their own welfare and were prepared to take care of themselves.

You see, the priorities of the members of these two stakes were very different. Many in the first stake were not prepared and expected the Church to take care of them, while in the second stake the situation was reversed—the majority of the people had prepared to meet their own needs.

In each of these examples, the central problem could probably have been avoided if the members had applied the principles of personal and family preparedness. The principles apply universally to all members of the Church all over the world, notwithstanding the fact that the full welfare services program is not in place in most countries outside the United States and Canada. We recognize there may be legal restrictions in some countries on certain phases of the program. Nevertheless, our people should follow these teachings to the extent the law allows.

I implore you stake leaders to see that the messages of this welfare services meeting get to the bishops, the quorum leaders, and the ward Relief Society presidents so that the members of the Church can be taught and converted sufficiently to live the basic principles of which we speak and thus put their houses in order (see D&C 90:18).

The bishop is responsible to administer to the needs of the poor and needy. He determines who will receive assistance and in what form that assistance will be. His judgment is basic to the wise administration of this program. He determines whether it blesses the people or becomes simply a dole. He also is responsible to see that no one who should properly be helped is overlooked."

READ THE REST OF THE ARTICLE HERE

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Acting like Brothers and Sisters

We usually arrive quite early to church on Sunday. Parking is a premium so we get their early to get a good spot. So, I get to watch 95% of the ward come into the chapel each week. I LOVE the interaction that happens during that time and even during Sacrament meeting.

We are a noisy ward - I know our Stake President is disappointed at the level of noise before Sacrament meeting and even during it. We need to work on speaking softly to each other. But, what I also see is people lovingly greeting one another each week.

Then, when the meeting starts, I see lots of baby passing, smiling, silly faces, children going to sit with "surrogate grandparents" and people sliding forward a bench or two to watch little children when a mother has to take a baby out. It just happens every week and I love it. It shows that ward members truly care for each other.

I am so grateful for the good people in our ward. I believe that through service given to each other, we grow closer together. Our reward for that is love and charity towards one another which increases the likelihood that we will do our visiting and home teaching which then adds an increase of charity and love towards those we serve.


Wednesday, December 10, 2008

This is what happens...

When you ask 9 and 11 year old boys to set up the Gingerbread Village for you. Instead of happy gingerbread families, you get Storm Troopers and Lego Warriors battling it out. Peace on Earth...

Saturday, December 6, 2008

The Mantle of Leadership

There was a change in the Bishopric the other day. I chuckled because they released everyone BUT Mark. I leaned forward to the Primary President sitting front of me and whispered, "They forgot a name!"

Then the second counselor became the first counselor and a new second counselor was called.

I don't know this man well and neither does Mark. But he was strongly impressed that he should be called into the Bishopric as his first counselor had served for a long time (from the previous Bishopric) and was needed in another Priesthood leadership position.

It's always amazing to me that "who the Lord calleth, he qualifies". The new counselor is probably 35 and, up until last Sunday, was an Elder. When they had him come to the stand to sit, he looked a bit stunned throughout the rest of the meeting.

But, by the time I went to fetch my kids from the clerk's office after church (they love to bug the ward financial clerk - the father of 5 mostly grown boys himself), there was a completely different demeanor to this man. It's like he had blossomed.

The poor man got thrown right into the middle of tithing settlement. They hardly have time to train him until next week. He showed up to the church with Mark on Thursday night for Tithing Settlement and again, I noticed what a change there was about him. I wonder if his family has felt and noticed it, too?

It's hard to describe what happens when your husband is serving in the Bishopric and especially as Bishop. There's just something different. I whine and complain when Mark has to travel for business or go to something in the evening for business. But, if he's gone for his calling, it's like I can't even THINK of whining or complaining. There's like a weird absence of the desire to do that.

I remember the day Mark was released the first time he served as a Bishop. We came home from church after and there was just this weird void like we'd left something important at church. Neither of us could describe it exactly - it was just very noticeable that something was gone.

I hope the new counselor's family feels the blessings of service that we have. I know it will be a challenge for them. His wife is newly pregnant with their third child and sicker than sick. I was actually surprised she was at church last Sunday when he was called and I felt really bad for her when he left to sit on the stand and there she sat feeling miserable with two little kids.

Monday, December 1, 2008

"Change" Someone's Christmas!

”I am afraid the only safe rule is to give more than we can spare…If our charities do not at all pinch or hamper us,… they are too small. There ought to be things we should like to do and cannot do because our charitable expenditures excludes them.”

C.S. Lewis in Mere Christianity


Tonight was our
Third Annual "Change" Someone's Christmas Family Home Evening activity. We did pretty bad on the change saving this year and only ended up with $67. But, we doubled it AND had a 10% off the total purchase coupon so, add to that some great sales and we got a LOT.


It's amazing how God puts people in your way to help you at times. The coupon at Fred Meyer's LOOKED like it gave you 10% off all toys and sporting goods, but when we went to check out, the guy said there was all sorts of confusing fine print and it didn't apply to sale prices but since nearly everything was on sale, he was rebelling against the system and just giving everyone 10% off anyway. WOW! I thanked him and told him the cart full of toys was all going to charity so his generosity was very kind. If we had gone to any other check-out line, we probably wouldn't have gotten the same treatment.

The best part about this is the impact it has on our boys. They understand that we are not shopping for them so there is no "wishful window shopping" allowed. We're all about "business". They also look for the best sale prices to get the most bang for our buck so they learn about buying on sale to make your dollars go farther. They are also forced to buy GIRL toys but they make sure that they make appropriate purchases - no half-naked Bratz dolls from us!

This year we are adding a new component. We are having an Open House this weekend - it's an open house in the true sense of the word - it will be outside from the garage. We have asked our friends and neighbors to bring toys to share with those in need. We will have a couple of fire pits going with fires and hot cocoa and cookies in our decorated and heated garage. We'll add the toys from that to our own pile and then drop them off early next week for the Christmas House charity.

We had a talk tonight about "spreading the wealth around". We taught our boys that paying more taxes to fund endless social programs will NEVER feel good, go as far or be as useful as what we did tonight - making the choice to share our blessings with those less fortunate. If more people in the world opened their hearts and their change jars, the world would be a better place!