As the wife of a Bishop, I sometimes find myself wishing that people wouldn't look at him as Superman. He had a conflict this week between two activities. One, was going away to celebrate our anniversary - something we didn't get to do last year because he was extremely ill and in the hospital for 6 weeks. The other was being at the "Bishop's Night" at Girls Camp.
We had it all planned out how we could do BOTH. We chose a place to go away that was within an hour of where Girl's Camp has always been. The day before Girl's Camp started, he found out that it was actually going to be several hours in the other direction this year. The Stake YW's presidency had neglected to tell the Bishop's this in the planning and so they were ALL surprised by this little bit of information.
So, he chose to go with me because of what happened a year ago and the fact that we missed our annual anniversary trip. He arranged for another Bishop (whose ward our youth meet with anyway and who knows our youth well) to take cookies to the girls with his apologies. It was all worked out that the other Bishop would preside over both groups.
And, there was backlash for him not showing up.
I just want to say, your Bishop is not superman. He will not always be able to be at every activity and event. He has a family. He has a job and he has his calling. The calling takes priority most of the time. He's missed school concerts and family outings because of it. He's been called away on a Friday night in the middle of a DVD to counsel with someone. We try very hard to never make him feel guilty about these times. He goes as often as he possibly can. But once in a very tiny while, he lets his family take priority.
Please don't ever fault him for that or complain or gossip about it. He's one man doing the best he can to serve the Lord and his family.
We had it all planned out how we could do BOTH. We chose a place to go away that was within an hour of where Girl's Camp has always been. The day before Girl's Camp started, he found out that it was actually going to be several hours in the other direction this year. The Stake YW's presidency had neglected to tell the Bishop's this in the planning and so they were ALL surprised by this little bit of information.
So, he chose to go with me because of what happened a year ago and the fact that we missed our annual anniversary trip. He arranged for another Bishop (whose ward our youth meet with anyway and who knows our youth well) to take cookies to the girls with his apologies. It was all worked out that the other Bishop would preside over both groups.
And, there was backlash for him not showing up.
I just want to say, your Bishop is not superman. He will not always be able to be at every activity and event. He has a family. He has a job and he has his calling. The calling takes priority most of the time. He's missed school concerts and family outings because of it. He's been called away on a Friday night in the middle of a DVD to counsel with someone. We try very hard to never make him feel guilty about these times. He goes as often as he possibly can. But once in a very tiny while, he lets his family take priority.
Please don't ever fault him for that or complain or gossip about it. He's one man doing the best he can to serve the Lord and his family.
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What a missed opportunity to TEACH these young women (and adults)about priorities and communication. It's not that he didn't try to attend.
And IMHO ~ make the kids concerts a priority over Bishop stuff. Those concerts will NEVER happen again and people can literally wait for a few hours. Maybe that will give them a chance to figure out a solution on their own.
Just found this and love it..
People tend to place Mark on a pedistal and expect too much from him, forgetting that he too is human..They need to remember.
There are times I'm told I should call him regarding something that has happened..And I decline..Because I need to work it out myself before going to him for everything..(Does this make sense?)
They need to remember that Mark does have a wife and children, that he too is a Man of God and prayerfully does his best to set his priorities with his God, wife, children, family and church.
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